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Seriously! 7 Assertive Phrases To Use With Children Or Adults Now!

Updated: May 18

I thought you might be interested in hearing some of the best phrases I've come across for dealing with bullies and creating resilience to adversity. Some phrases deal with physical and some with mental bullies.

I hope they help you as much as they helped me and I also hope you're in a situation where you can truly apply them!

I don't let anyone hit me!  Set a good example by not allowing anyone to hit you and by not hitting anyone, ever. I've written many short articles about hitting and other hurtful behaviors such as biting and bullying. If you're interesting in setting boundaries in a developmentally appropriate way, feel free to browse my blog.

 I need more information or I need more time.  This tells people that you don't buckle under pressure. In order to bring this down to the level of the children I work with I often say, I don't like that, Ill have to think of something to change it.


So, you're asking me to___________________________?  Correct? Sometimes just repeating an offensive request is enough to make a bully think.

  Are you saying______?  Rephrasing can shed light on a lot of things.

No! This word speaks for itself. If you need a little bit more you could add,

I'm not going to be able to do that but thank you for asking!

I've decide to_____________and I'm not going to change my mind.

Be clear, be assertive and know your own boundaries.


I once spent a weekend with and assertiveness trainer who's job was to collect large sums of money from people who owed it to her boss. She finds that when people talk, she can often make them think about what they're saying by using this one simple word. Seriously?

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