Creating Empathy Through Play
For parents and other important educators of children 0-8+ who share the goal of creating more empathy in the world.
When I was a fairly young teacher, volunteering at an ethnic festival, a fellow worker asked me a really great question. One I'll never forget because it was so simple and so profound.
She said, "How DO you teach empathy to young children? It took me back a bit. Although I felt like I taught empathy for a living, I couldn't give her a good answer. That's bothered me ever since.
So for the past 25 years, I’ve been trying to pinpoint some ideas that work to create empathy in very young children. It somehow seems super important now especially since we know that 80% of a child's brain is formed before the age of 3. That includes attitudes, emotions, and the potential to learn and apply new things.
So after 40+ years as a head start teacher, kindergarten teacher, 4-year old teacher, mixed age group center teacher, childcare director, special education aide, before and after school and summer camp teacher, child/parent educator, UU teacher, family aerobics instructor, and proprietor of my own Child Development Home (29 years), I’m suddenly without a day job due to COVID. Plus, I'm an empty nester!
So I've had some time to reflect.
After all of that reflection, I can say two things for sure. Empathy isn’t born of curriculum, activities, or field trips to help feed the hungry. It is born of living with and being around empathetic people day in and day out as well as having the stability of people with empathy sticking around in one's life.
I wish I could say that modeling empathic behavior is all that has to be done in order to raise empathetic children. My experience with children and families has taught me otherwise. Sometimes certain children need a little bit more than good role models. They might need some extra help understanding that others have feelings or they might have trouble expressing themselves when they feel wronged. They may have unusual sensory needs.
I’ve seen some truly empathetic parents with some truly unempathetic children and that’s not a pretty family picture. Sometimes completely well-meaning parents miss a critical point or two. That's why It’s important to teach empathy and emotional learning intentionally. No one wants to leave anything out or be unsuccessful at teaching any crucial idea.
Next Monday, I’ll begin to unveil my secrets for teaching empathy gleaned over 40 years as a parent, and a teacher with a BS and MA degrees in education and human development respectively. I've organized them into 10 short lessons for busy parents and other educators to digest.
Lesson One one will be unveiled on Saturday 3/26/2021 and if you’re a community member, it’ll be delivered to your inbox effortlessly and 100% free! Then, just stick around and be sure to actually open each lesson I send you, and you'll magically get the next one a week later. If you don't have time to read the lesson when it arrives, just open it up so my server will see you as active and send you the next one as soon as it's released.